Are You Also Called ‘Unrealistic’? Why That Might Be Your Greatest Gift

Were you unrealistic? Or did you just see another way of living that others could not?

I remember exactly what it felt like to want a life that did not make sense to anyone else. To not be satisfied with what was “normal.” To feel, deep in my body, that there had to be more. More freedom. More honesty. More joy.

And I also remember the doubt. The doubt that comes not because the dream is wrong, but because the mind keeps pulling back toward what it has always known.

The Part No One Talks About

You do not stop yourself because you are incapable. You stop yourself because you cannot fully connect with your core and your intuition when your doubt and insecurities are active.

This is the part no one talks about. We celebrate the women who took the leap. We share the story of the big decision, the bold move, the life that looks extraordinary from the outside. But we rarely talk about what happens between the desire and the decision: the days, weeks, sometimes years of living in the gap between who you are and who you know you could be.

Doubt Is Not the Enemy

Doubt is not a sign that your dream is wrong. It is a sign that your nervous system is working hard to protect you from the unfamiliar. The “realistic way”: the path everyone around you took, the life you were shown was possible: is deeply encoded in you. Choosing differently means rewiring something fundamental.

That is not weakness. That is how humans work. And recognising it is the first step to not letting it run you.

The Woman Who Knows There Is More

If you are the woman who knows there is more available for her, but also knows how easy it is to slip back, to get busy, to let the volume of daily life drown out the signal: this is for you.

You do not need to make the big leap today. You need to stay connected to your core. To have something that reminds you, regularly and gently, of what you felt when you dared to feel your desires. Because from that place, things begin to shift.

If you want to understand yourself more deeply and start seeing the patterns beneath your decisions, Beyond Your Type: The Enneagram is a good place to begin. It is available as a free PDF download or as a printed version for less than 10 euros on Amazon.